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Implement Pleasure and Delight Habits

Implement Pleasure and Delight Habits

It is not uncommon for us to become so tunnel visioned in our experience that we miss the forest for the trees. We focus on what’s not working, how we’ve been wronged, what we don’t like, how much we have to do, and all the miseries of life. We tend to overwork, to neglect ourselves and our loved ones.

We are far from living our best life and creating our best relationship. We can focus and work differently instead. And we can implement pleasure and delight habits.

Why pleasure and delight habits? Great question. As I’ve been embracing the concept of doing my life with more ease, these have been coming up. And how glorious they are! They simply make life easier and more enjoyable. They profoundly add to creating our best life and relationship.

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I’m talking about creating space, grace, and inspired flow in our daily routine. I’m talking about being gentle and compassionate with ourselves and others. And, of course, I’m talking about enjoying simple pleasures.

It costs almost nothing to meditate, savor clean food, drink water, enjoy herbal teas, play with our pet, frolic in nature, witness a sunset, stargaze, take a bath, read a good book, be moved by music, and such.

It definitely costs nothing to be present in a conversation and bask in the interaction with a loved one, and even a stranger. And better yet, it really does cost nothing to do things we know will delight our partner.

Watch this video to learn more and complete the assignment below!

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Assignment: Embrace this opportunity for more pleasure and delight in your life.

  • Clean up your daily routine. Reclaim and own your time! Get rid of time wasters. Make sure you have focus, transition, and free time.
  • Add a daily simple pleasure habit.
  • Add a daily delight partner habit.
  • Implement a habits tracking system as what you measure improves.

As with anything, when you bring consciousness, focus, and attention to something, awesomeness happens. I wish this for you in your life and your relationship.

Wishing you much joy, connection, and love today and always.

With much love and light!

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Emma K. Viglucci, LMFT is the Founder and Director of Metropolitan Marriage & Family Therapy, PLLC, a private practice that specializes in working with couples. She is the creator of the MetroRelationship philosophy and the Successful Couple Strategy that help couples succeed at their relationship and their life. To stay connected with her and receive weekly connection notes in your inbox with personal development and relationship enrichment insights and strategies, visit

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