Introduce yourself to our audience. Tell us who you are and what you are currently focused on.
Hiya! I'm a high performance coach, Amazon best-selling co-author, speaker, wife, and mama to, currently, one very precocious little toddler, and the founder of CrownYourself.com! I'm currently working on expanding, elevating, and championing my fast-growing tribe of Queens (and a few Kings), who are going ALL-IN in all areas of their lives, creating holistic success + fulfillment. And I'm also polishing and releasing my first solo book, "Mind FULL Meals: How to Dethrone Food Fears and Reign in a Body that Rules." WO-man-o-WO-man, that was a mouthful!
Tell us about your favorite Ellevate Network memory or success story. Why are you a member?
My friend and fellow Ellevate member, Luci Lampe turned me onto this group. I started scaling my virtual coaching business when I found out I was pregnant, while owning and operating my Los Angeles based private Pilates studio. After giving birth to my son, my Pilates business no longer felt aligned. My husband and I always wanted to raise our kids while traveling the world, allowing them to experience different cultures, rather than just reading about them in books. My virtual coaching business allowed us to do that. So I closed my first business baby, my Pilates studio in 2018, after 8 years of growing it, and my family spent a month abroad in Australia. But after a year of coaching extraordinary clients, launching courses, building automation funnels, and doing the online thing in my Crown Yourself business, I missed speaking with humans, face-to-face (without a screen in between). I joined Ellevate to have the #IRL experience, and meet my fellow badass creatives who are doing their dream unapologetically.
How would you define your professional mission?
My mission is to create, cheerlead, and champion the rise of holistic, conscious leaders, who choose to kick Fear off of their throne, and make the income and impact that they deserve. It is unbelievably fulfilling to see my clients step into their power, and start operating from a place of faith in their capability to succeed, lead, and create, and to watch the ripple effect that it has, not only in their businesses, but also in all their relationships!
What qualities does it take for someone to be successful in your line of work?
Lovingly being able to call B.S. on limiting beliefs that are holding someone back, while also supporting them with massive compassion, vulnerability, and accountability.
It takes holding someone’s highest magnificence in mind while championing, cheerleading, and usually, lovingly challenging your clients to rise into their own vision of their Future Self. It’s encouraging your clients to charge forward into the arena with fear, while also helping them stand strong, confidently, and courageously in their vision to succeed and serve.
What is the most rewarding part of your job?
My clients results. I cheer and champion them harder than sometimes even they do. It doesn’t matter whether a client makes their first $19 in passive income or makes over $554,00 in sales, whether they have their first courageous, candid conversation with their spouse, or they get engaged, I celebrate every client's results equally.
Because, no matter what you’re working on achieving, the discipline, faith, and courage it takes to keep charging forward confidently takes massive guts.
What is it about your job that makes you feel it’s the right fit for you?
Oh my god, everything! There are two questions I always ask my clients. One is, “What did you want to do when you were about 5 or 6 years old, before you adopted anyone else’s expectations or beliefs of what or how you ‘should’ be or what is ‘reality’?”
For me, I wanted to be a princess, a writer, a director, a producer, an entertainer, and an entrepreneur. I was split testing price points of five-cents or fifty dollars on bags of glitter water at five. I sold these at the neighborhood shows that I organized, wrote, directed, produced, and starred in. And, the plays would ALWAYS be about a princess. Now I never was into the weak, “Help, I need to be kissed by a man to wake up” kind of princesses. All of my stories...all of them...were focused on transformation and princesses who kicked ass, like Belle. I directed and wrote stories about princesses who were challenged to rise into the highest and best versions of themselves and who also transformed others in the process.
If you look at the business I have now, Crown Yourself, you’ll see I do ALL the things I wanted to do as a kid. I mean, my gosh, my business is called Crown Yourself! As an entrepreneur, you’re the director and producer of your business. As the spokesperson for my business, I get to entertain and educate in my courses, livestreams, interviews, speaking events, and podcasts. And I get to transform my clients lives via the stories I share, or in coaching sessions, and watch them rise into their power and rule!
And if you’re wondering, what’s the second question I ask my clients, it’s, “What did you get in trouble for as a kid?”
One of my special skill sets is lovingly challenging my clients to rise into the highest and best version of themselves. Sometimes that means holding the vision of who they CAN and desire to be, even when they may not see it yet.
I do this easily because I grew up doing it for my dad, which wasn’t always appreciated. I mean, no parent really wants their child to challenge their behavior because they’re not acting as their highest and best self. I got in trouble a lot for this as a kid. You see, I grew up in an addict household - my dad the addict, my mom the codependent who liked to bury her head in the sand about my dad's behavior. So I took on the role of challenging it. Yet, I always did it holding the vision for who my dad could be, because I would get glimpses of the amazing, successful, funny man he was at his core, when he wasn’t using drugs or alcohol to numb out. Thirty years later, I am proud to say that I was able to use my enneagram 8 superpower, and staged my dad’s intervention. He’s now been 3 years sober off of alcohol. It just proves to me, you’re never too young or too old to transform.
I feel like my whole life has prepared me for this career. And I am so immensely grateful for that training.
What is your morning ritual?
Waking up before my toddler is essential to starting my day off in a proactive mindset. I usually wake up way before the sun, around 5AM, and quickly turn off my alarm before it wakes up my toddler, sneaking carefully out of bed to the bathroom where I do 5-Minute gratitude + intention setting journal, wash face, brush teeth, throw on exercise clothes (which I set out the night before) and either run outside or do an intense Pilates workout. Then it's on with a cup of coffee with exogenous ketones and into my creative den to write. After an hour of writing, and depending on whether my toddler wakes up, it's either a hot bath and a meditation (while the bath is filling up), or it's nursing my bubs while reading a good business or self-improvement book, and having breakfast with him. Either way the "me time" of my mornings is essential and so worth waking up early for!
Also, a nighttime ritual is just as important to having a morning ritual. There is NO WAY I could sustain my energy throughout the day for success in the long term, waking up before 5AM, if I was not getting enough rest the night before. I set my mornings up for success by having a nighttime ritual of prepping my workout clothes, reviewing tomorrow's priorities, doing some more reading or journalling and a 5-Minute Journal of reflection before bed...which is ideally, before 9:30PM. Though, I'll be honest, normally it's around 10:30. Getting a full 7-8 hours of sleep is still a work in progress for me.
Is work-life balance a problem for you? What is one no-fail tactic you use to create balance?
I actually don't believe in balance. I believe in harmony. If you think of balance, you imagine a scale. In order for the scale to be even, you have to take away from something that is overflowing in order to "balance" it. I think we can all agree that we want profit, love, joy, fulfilling and meaningful relationships and experiences to be in abundance and overflow, not to take away from them for balance's sake. That's why I use the analogy of a symphony. If you were just listening to the trumpets blow for six hours, it wouldn't be pleasant to your ears. Sometimes the horns of your business need to crescendo and sometimes the strings section of your relationships needs to decrescendo and vice versa. You are the conductor and every section of your orchestra is working in harmony with the other. They are all supporting each other to create the mellifluous melody of your life.
Our unconscious minds speaks in metaphors and imagery - just take your dreams for example. This shift in the metaphor we use around work-life "balance" has been my no-fail tactic in trusting that whatever section of my life is needing to crescendo, that the other sections of my life's orchestra will support it.
What advice would you offer future leading ladies wishing to break into your industry?
Do it scared and run your own dang marathon. As a five-time marathon runner, I feel like when you're running a marathon you're not comparing yourself to the people who are running at a faster pace than you. You're running at your pace. And you know you're in the same race. You know that if you keep running, you're going to cross the finish line. It's inevitable. So comparison isn't even a thing because you know that if you keep going mile after mile, you're going to cross the same mile markers as the women who crossed it before you. The same is true in business. Just keep running. And remember, that there are also women who are one, five or ten metaphorical "miles" behind you who are looking at you, ahead of them, as inspiration.
What is one piece of advice you’d offer working moms?
Self care is NOT selfish. So often I see so many women, even the ones who don't have kids, but especially new moms, put everyone else's needs before their own. This is the fast track to burnout, resentment, overwhelm, and a whole host of other crappy states. As Steven Covey put it in "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People," the 7th habit is to sharpen your saw.
I ALWAYS start on the physical level. What are your DAILY exercise, sleep, nutrition, and mindset habits? These basics are the bedrock of your performance in every area of your life. If your energy or your health is lacking, you won't have the energy to serve anyone else. Not your customers. Not Not your kids. Not your mission.
Start first with yourself and your cup will runneth over into every area of your life - body, business, and relationships. That's elevating into overflow and abundance, baby!
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CEO and High Performance Coach
Crown Yourself Enterprises LLC
Currently, outside of my career, I'm raising a very precocious toddler, beginning training for my 6th marathon, and finishing up my first solo book. While, yes, the book is a part of my career, this book has been a labor of love that has definitely taken longer than my son to get out. That's why this September I feel like I'm birthing another child as this book baby, "MIND FULL Meals: How to Dethrone Food... Continue Reading
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